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1、如有侵权，请联系网站删除，仅供学习与交流Men-are-from-Mars-women-are-from-Venus【精品文档】第 3 页Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus Imagine that men are from Mars and women are from Venus. One day, long ago, the Martians, looking into their telescopes, discovered the Venusians. Just glimpsing the Venusians awakened feelin
2、gs they had never known. They fell in love and quickly invented space travel and flew to Venus. The Venusians welcomed the Martians with open arms. The love between the Venusians and the Martians was magical. They delighted in being together, doing things together and sharing together. Both the Mart
3、ians and the Venusians forgot that they were from different planets, and were supposed to be different. And one morning, everything they had learned about their differences was erased from their memory. And since that day, men and women have been in conflict. The most frequently expressed complaint
4、women have about men is that men dont listen. Either a man completely ignores her when she speaks, or he listens for a few beats, assesses what is bothering her, and then he proudly puts on his Mr. Fix-it hat (metaphor), and offers her a solution to make her feel better. No matter how many times she
5、 tells him hes not listening, he doesnt get it, and he keeps doing the same thing. She wants empathy, he thinks she wants solutions. The most frequently expressed complaint men have about women is that women are always trying to change them. When a women loves a man, she feels responsible to assist
6、him improve the way he does things. She forms the Home Improvement Committee, and he becomes her primary focus. No matter how much he resists her help, she persists, waiting for an opportunity to help him or to tell him what to do. She thinks shes nurturing him, while he feels hes being controlled.
7、Martians value power, competency, efficiency, and achievement. Their senses of self are defined through their ability to achieve results. Achieving goals is very important to a Martian, because it is the way for him to prove his competence and thus feel good about himself. And for him to feel good a
8、bout himself, he must achieve those goals alone, by himself. To offer a man unsolicited advice is to presume that he doesnt know what to do or that he cant do it on his own. Men are very touchy about this, because the issue of competence is so very important to them. However, if he truly does need h
9、elp, then its a sign of wisdom to get it. In this case, hell find someone he respects and then talk about his problem. Talking about a problem on Mars is an invitation for advice. Another Martian feels honored by the opportunity. Automatically, he puts on his Mr. Fix-hat, listens for a few beats, an
10、d then offers some jewels of advice (metaphor). This Martian custom is one of the reasons men instinctively offer solutions when a woman talks about her feelings or about her problems. Venusians have different values. Their sense of self is defined through their feelings and the quality of their rel
11、ationships and their communication. They experience fulfillment through sharing and relating. Communication is of primary importance. To share their personal feeling is much more important than achieving goals or success. Talking and relating to one another is a source of tremendous fulfillment. Ins
12、tead of being goal-oriented, women are relationship-oriented. They are more concerned with expressing their goodness, their love, their caring. Venusians are very intuitive. They pride themselves on being considerate of the needs and feelings of others. A sign of great love is to offer help and assistance to another Venusian without even being asked. Without this insight into the nature of men, its very easy for a woman to unknowingly and unintentionally hurt and offend the man she loves most. Love is magical, and it can last if we remember our differences.
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